By Paula Marolewski
We covenant together never to raise
our voices in anger. Even when we are angry, or hurt, or wronged.
will respond calmly if the other raises their voice in anger. We
will end the discussion and leave the room until the other has
controlled their anger.
We will never discuss a problem or situation in anger.
We will never insult the other person with our words. We will
not attack their personhood.
We will never bring up issues that have been dealt with.
We will never bring up past faults when dealing with a present
We will address one issue at a time in any given discussion.
We will define goals, work toward them, and hold each other accountable
We will respect one another’s personhood, mind, experience,
opinions, and emotions. We will never degrade the other in any
of these areas.
We will never belittle the seriousness of the concerns the other
brings to our attention.
We will seek to build one another up. We will never bring up a
problem without also encouraging the other in something that they
are doing well.
We will seek every day to express our love for the other in thought,
word, and deed.
© 2002 Paula Marolewski
Article Source: http://www.sinkyourroots.com
About the Author:
Paula J. Marolewski provides challenging and interactive adult Bible
studies for individuals, Bible studies, small groups, and adult Sunday School
classes at Sink Your Roots. Studies
include such topics as Debunking
the Myths about Knowing God's Will. The site also offers free weekly Seedlings - “Little
thoughts that grow big results.”